These words were spoken by Sam's good friend Bryce when he was finally fed up with his antics. He said something of this sort about three times the last time they were together. In a good example of the overall problem, at one point Sam was dragging Bryce to the ground, cackling the whole time, while Bryce is taking swings at him because Sam is ignoring his cries of "stop!"
My kid is pushy, like his mother. He nevers takes no for an answer, and it's really beginning to become an ugly habit when he's playing around. He does it for Brian and I all the time, but as mad as it can make us when he ignores our pleas, I assumed it was him just being rough. But now watching him torture his friends as well I've realized I've got to nip this in the bud before he winds up being the kid no one wants to play with.
I vaguely remember reading in one of my parenting books (I only skim them when I have a problem. I'm not into being told what to do with my own kid) that at some point you have to teach two- and three-year-olds to be receptive to other people's signals, such as "stop!" So I'm going to teach Sam to stop when someone says stop, or not do when someone says no. This can be hard for any two-year-old, much less one with the drive of my son.
But this is what parenting is about, right? So here I go!
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I have felt deep frustration when my kids have gone through similar phases. Eventually they learn, some take longer than others. I worried about F when he was 2+ because he took such pleasure in torturing the dog. He eventually got over it. Sometimes kids do it because they are uncomfortable with entering, maintaining, or exiting play. Other kids do it to get attention or to get a reaction out of someone for doing it. Kids are a lot like pack animals and torture each other to no end. Just watch a few siblings when they think no adults are watching. =)
Des
You can use this behavior to train both Bryce and Sam a leason. Tell Bryce he has permission to defend himself when Sam mistreats him. It will teach Bryce to assert himself and defend himself when wronged(unfortunately current PC says its much better to be a victim) but that isn't the kind of men we are going to need in our future and Sam will learn there are consequences for direspecting others(again PC today teaches there are no consequences for one's actions.)
They are both young so they can't really hurt one another and such an event will be a great object leason to use for both of them.
Love,
Dad
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