So, I fully expected this would be a boring post, but not so much.
When we arrived at the church in Buelaville, this tiny little town near Wilmington, Andra was there to greet us. We had met her before at previous meetings, so she wasn't a new face. We really like her and we settled down to chat about this and that related to adoption. Then we began going over our preference form. What ages we were interested in, what were we willing to accept when it came to drug use, mental disorders, history of the birthfather, etc. Brian and I had previously discussed all this, so it went pretty quickly. I've wanted to adopt since before Brian and I were married, and Brian has had nearly 6 years to consider these things as well. So I guess we shouldn't have been surprised when Andra told us we were much more advanced in our considerations than most of her clients. Basically, we were more open than most people (read less picky). But we couldn't help but be shocked out of our pants when she told us this means we could consider ourselves parents of a new born in a matter of months!
Not only that, but because we were such good candidates, she was planning to start showing us off to birthmothers right now even though we just began the home assessment process and are not even approved yet!
She said she would try to see if there might be a birthmother willing to meet right now, so Brian might be able to meet our birthmother before he deploys!
Needless to say, the adoption has suddenly jumped to the forefront of our daily life now, when before it was the deployment. I was planning to get around to putting our profile book together sometime this month, but Andra has asked us to get it to her ASAP. Agh!
Now that the initial excitement has worn off, I'm terrified out of my flippin' mind. There are a LOT of good reasons not to have a new baby in the house right now: timing, money, potty training! Brian will be gone for a solid year! I was kind of hoping this time next year we'd be welcoming a new one, not sometime this summer! So, I'm freaking out right now, wondering how fast I need to put a nursery together. But I just keep reminding myself of this most basic fact: God has a plan, and it is good, and this new revelation changes none of that. So I have to trust that whenever we get that baby, it will be God's perfect timing.
Please pray for that!
On a side note, we announced to Sam tonight at dinner about the deployment. He asked to go with Brian, and then he took it pretty well. Of course, he has no clue what he's in for, but we wanted to give him enough time to ask questions as he slowly began to understand. Pray that we have the right words and attitude for him. Especially my attitude, as I'm of course miserable and its hard not to show that to Sam.
So, there's our exciting wrap up of our first interview. We will be returning to Buelaville, with profile book in hand, next Monday, and then Andra will be coming to us the Monday following to see Sam, the house, and meet with our pastor. This is suddenly so much more exciting than I expected! =)
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5 comments:
Your long awaited news made tears of joy fill my eyes. How happy we both are for all of you. I'm glad things are moving so quickly now. That's how having a baby is. And, by the way, there's no GOOD time to have a baby. If we waited until everything was in place, we'd never have one. Our thoughts and certainly our prayers are with you. We love you. Mrs. A.
That's all wonderful news! Yay! We'll be praying for all of you! Love ya!
I'm so excited to see what happens next!!!
Mrs. A is right. There isn't a perfect time. Please be careful when you have an opportunity to select the child, don't be too anxious. God does have a plan but make sure what you decide is really his plan.
I would suggest that you don't hide too much of your concern from Sam. He needs to know your feelings and that its OK to not be happy about Brian being gone. He will look to you for emotional cues. I know you will find the right balance.
We are all praying hard on this and will be there when you need us. Can't wait to add another grandchild to the crew!!
Love,
Dad
I'm so excited for you! I pray about it every day, and will continue to do so. If you need something to get Sam's mind off of Brian being gone, you can always come down to visit Texas! Elijah would be thrilled as well as me :)
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